I wrote this about 2 1/2 years ago, and I just found it and re-read it and thought I'd post it...I really like it..please give me your feedback I would love to hear your thoughts!
"So one thing that I have really been thinking about lately is couples. I look at a lot of my friends, past and present, strangers, and just people in general, and it seems like almost everybody has somebody right now. Superficially, that sounds like a great utopian concept: Everybody is loved, it is a bright, sunny season, and happiness is all over. But that's exactly what that perspective is: superficial. Under the surface there are much more less appealing perspectives.
First of all, what is it that is driving people to commit to these incredible relationships? Well it's not just love. One thing I've noticed is desperation. Individuals are so hell-bent on taking away their individuality, on labeling themselves as coupled. They will foresake what they like, are interested in, and most importantly, what they believe in just so that others will know that they are coupled. Relationships have become this rose, and happiness are its petals, and everytime a petal falls off, happiness dies for that person. People are so desperate to have a dozen roses in their garden, yet life is built off more than just those roses. It's built off more than just flowers. Life is this huge supermarket, where there is an endless variety of sections, yet everyone seems to focus on the rose department. Whatever happened to the clean up on aisle nine?
Another thing I've noticed which blindly drives people to one another is lonliness. It seems like lonliness is everywhere. A little girl swinging slowly on the playground with her head towards the ground, an old lady sipping a latte and watching the day pass at a coffee shop, a less than popular teenager sitting in his room on a Friday night, because no one has the bravery to call him and see how he's doing. These may all just be lonely people. But what about the people who are so afraid of being lonely that this urge drives them to shack up with anyone who gets beyond "hello" with them? So many people, especially young ones, fear spending their life unloved that they go for the next best thing, the less than best thing, or simply, anything. And that's unfortunate. You can feign a smile, you can feign an "I love you", hell, you can even feign an entire relationship, but you can't feign what your heart says is true. All in all, which is better? To be independant, single, and "lonely", or lie to yourself about what makes you happy for the rest of your life?
And what about the poor souls who have a combination of both? Lonliness and desperation. Are those the ones that turn to one night stands, drugs, and meaningless relationships to pass the time, and feign their happiness? Or are their a strong handful in that group that are able to stand their ground, hold out, and wait for that one person who truely, meaningfuly, honestly makes them happy and loves them unconditionally? Are you that person? Am I?"
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Snippit from an Article from the Huffington Post
Nearly half of people living with HIV/AIDS in the United States lack access to the health care services they need. Many living with HIV are considered "too healthy" to obtain Medicaid benefits but cannot afford or are denied private insurance coverage. Because private insurers often refuse to cover people with HIV, only one in five people living with HIV have private insurance coverage.
Health care reform efforts must include ways to provide coverage for all people living with HIV and also include strong provisions on prevention. With nearly 60,000 people newly infected with HIV each year in the United States, the rate of new HIV infections remains disturbingly high.
Luckily, the health care reform plan does include provisions on HIV/AIDS. The plan will allow states to extend Medicaid coverage to thousands of low-income people living with HIV who are currently "too healthy" to obtain coverage and also increase the number of people who benefit from the AIDS Drug Assistance program. Finally, the plan contains several prevention and wellness provisions that will increase access to voluntary HIV testing and other prevention methods. More can always be done, but this is a good start.
Health care reform efforts must include ways to provide coverage for all people living with HIV and also include strong provisions on prevention. With nearly 60,000 people newly infected with HIV each year in the United States, the rate of new HIV infections remains disturbingly high.
Luckily, the health care reform plan does include provisions on HIV/AIDS. The plan will allow states to extend Medicaid coverage to thousands of low-income people living with HIV who are currently "too healthy" to obtain coverage and also increase the number of people who benefit from the AIDS Drug Assistance program. Finally, the plan contains several prevention and wellness provisions that will increase access to voluntary HIV testing and other prevention methods. More can always be done, but this is a good start.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
I feel..
So I've been told I often talk about what I am doing, and not enough of what I am feeling. So tonight I'm dedicating my entry to only what I am feeling...Read ahead.
I feel overwhelmed. I feel as if I have stepped into a new world, one in which I was not prepared for. I feel as though I have not made the best decisions since my diagnosis, relying too much on emotion, and too little on intelligence. I feel as if I buried myself in situations, dedications, and expectations that I am not capable of managing to the best of my abilities. I feel that I wish I could have a few more months off of life, yet I feel that I should have never taken as much time off from it as I did. I feel overwhelmed.
I feel new horizons broadening. I feel as though the sun is setting on many aspects, friendships, and endeavors in my life, yet there are so many other things opening up. I feel as if the friendships I have had the pleasure of becoming acquainted with are so much more real than the friendships I used to make. I feel as if the crowd of people I have chosen to surround myself with hold better values about themselves, and I respect that. I feel I have strayed away from the hard partier's, the all-to-often hungover people, and those who do not have common goals as myself. I feel as if I view goals in a different light. I feel as though I have a clearer view of the things I wish to do with my life, the people I wish to encounter, and the rewards I wish to obtain through hard work. I feel new horizons broadening.
I feel pressured more than ever. I feel that disappointment and failure is no longer acceptable, and that it is time to buck up and get some real shit done. I feel that I have let many people down. I feel that those who weren't really my friends have lost hope in me, while the people who really care have held out and tried to support me. I feel as though many people don't understand what I am going through, and that sometimes creates a strain on our friendship. I feel that I have many less friends than i did a year ago, but I feel more love and acceptance in my life. I feel that I do not want to let these people down, I want them to be happy that we are friends, and find satisfaction in our relationship. At the same time, I feel pressured more than ever.
I feel overwhelmed. I feel as if I have stepped into a new world, one in which I was not prepared for. I feel as though I have not made the best decisions since my diagnosis, relying too much on emotion, and too little on intelligence. I feel as if I buried myself in situations, dedications, and expectations that I am not capable of managing to the best of my abilities. I feel that I wish I could have a few more months off of life, yet I feel that I should have never taken as much time off from it as I did. I feel overwhelmed.
I feel new horizons broadening. I feel as though the sun is setting on many aspects, friendships, and endeavors in my life, yet there are so many other things opening up. I feel as if the friendships I have had the pleasure of becoming acquainted with are so much more real than the friendships I used to make. I feel as if the crowd of people I have chosen to surround myself with hold better values about themselves, and I respect that. I feel I have strayed away from the hard partier's, the all-to-often hungover people, and those who do not have common goals as myself. I feel as if I view goals in a different light. I feel as though I have a clearer view of the things I wish to do with my life, the people I wish to encounter, and the rewards I wish to obtain through hard work. I feel new horizons broadening.
I feel pressured more than ever. I feel that disappointment and failure is no longer acceptable, and that it is time to buck up and get some real shit done. I feel that I have let many people down. I feel that those who weren't really my friends have lost hope in me, while the people who really care have held out and tried to support me. I feel as though many people don't understand what I am going through, and that sometimes creates a strain on our friendship. I feel that I have many less friends than i did a year ago, but I feel more love and acceptance in my life. I feel that I do not want to let these people down, I want them to be happy that we are friends, and find satisfaction in our relationship. At the same time, I feel pressured more than ever.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
